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         More Information VRP: What? You didn't like it? I tried so hard to find something that would be nice. There's jus 
VRP: What? You didn't like it? I tried so hard to find something that would be nice. There's just no pleasing you, is there? Green: I'm surprised. I thought that you would like the blue one. Please tell me if you'd like a different color or a different gift all toghther.
The question, "What?" is VRP in that it is a question that is actually a statement, accusing the other person of having said or done something "wrong."

Saying what the other person does not feel as a question, a question with a NOT, ("you didn't like it?") is a VRP Persecuting and Victim "should."

The "tried," as in "I tried," is a VRP whine, as are, "so," and "hard." "Nice" is more VRP judging.

The "just," coupled with the NOT in "no pleasing you," is acting as a Persecutor, while again claiming Victim status, and the "question statement" style Persecutes with the responsibility for an answer being put upon the hearer.
The Green here is in owning the Feeling (I'm surprised), reporting the Thought (I thought that you would like), and stating the Want (Please tell me).


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